Dir en grey is a Japanese rock band formed in 1997. While the lineup has remained constant since the group's inception, numerous stylistic changes have made its genre difficult to determine (though it is generally a form of Rock music). Originally part of Japan's Visual Kei movement, Dir en grey has opted for less flamboyant attires in recent years. Dir en grey's roots go back to the independent band La:Sadie's, which ended up including four of Dir en grey's current members. After disbanding and parting ways with La:Sadie's bassist Kisaki, Kyo, Kaoru, Die and Shinya along with the newly recruited bassist, Toshiya, briefly re-grouped as Deathmask [citation needed] but then changed their name to Dir en grey, after a show in Nagano in early 1997. A few months later, a first EP, MISSA, was released. In 1998, they became the first Japanese indies band to reach the singles top ten on the Oricon music charts after the release of their first singles JEALOUS and -I'll-. This caught the attention of Yoshiki Hayashi of X Japan fame, who produced and arranged the singles of their subsequent album, GAUZE, released in 1999. In 2000, vocalist Kyo was hospitalized with hearing trouble (he remains partially deaf in his left ear). The tour in support of Dir en grey's upcoming album, MACABRE, had to be postponed. After Kyo recovered, TOUR 00>>01 MACABRE eventually took off later the same year. In 2002, along with the release of their 3rd full-length album kisou, Dir en grey gave their first performances outside of Japan, touring China, Taiwan, and South Korea. In Shanghai, fans became excited to the point that authorities attempted to cancel a planned second concert. The band and their management eventually resolved the dispute, and the concert was performed as scheduled. Back in Japan, the l ast dates of the tour were already in support for the band's second EP, six Ugly. In 2005, Dir en grey played their first shows in Europe. Their concerts in Berlin and Paris (as part of the It Withers and Withers tour) sold out without any sort of promotion save for newsletters by import record stores and internet-based word of mouth. The band also appeared at two major festivals, Rock am Ring and Rock im Park. These events apparently inspired a change in the band's live routine. They had not performed alongside other bands since their being signed to a major label, but after these festivals, Dir en grey had a French band, Eths, open up for them at their show in Paris. Later that year, they invited long-time associate Wednesday 13 and his band to play at a show in Japan. Dir en grey also performed in the Japanese leg of the international Taste of Chaos tour. 2005 saw the first domestic European releases as well, such as that year's album, Withering to death., which eventually reached #31 in the Finnish album charts (Dir en grey's first non-Asian chart position). The subsequent single, CLEVER SLEAZOID, later became #15 of the singles charts in the same country. In early 2006, the first concerts in the United States took place, performed in Austin, Texas (SXSW06), New York (Avalon Club) and Los Angeles (Wiltern Theater). All dates sold out in a very short amount of time. The audience comprised of people from several countries. Soon afterwards, the American release of Withering to death. and the live DVD TOUR05 It Withers and Withers followed. After more shows in Germany in summer 2006, singer Kyo was again hospitalized in July, due to inflamed vocal cords. While two concert dates in Japan had to be postponed, Dir en grey were still able to join Korn's Family Values Tour, which concluded in September. Dir En grEy ProfIlE Full name: 新倉 薫 (Niikura Kaoru) Nicknames: Leader-sama, Kao, Kaokao In the band, he is a guitarist Date of birth: 02.17,1974. (Hyougo) Astrological sign: Aquarius Zodiac sign: Tiger Blood type: A Height: 170cm Weight: 52 kg Clothes' size: L Shoe size: 39,5 (5 1/2) Favourite cigarette brand: Mild Seven Light Favourite sport: soccer baseball Favourite music: HIDE, X-Japan, Shiina Ringo His former bands: CHARM ® La:Sadie's Personality: bad, difficult nature He sees himself as a person with complicated nature Likes: Gundam Dislikes: prawn According to him, the most important thing is fans Favourite food: curry, potatoe salad, hamburger, chocolate, sushi, d ouble cheesburger, chinese food, ramen, okonomiyaki, gyudon curry, gyudon kimechi Food he detests: prawn He likes to get: clothes, accessories, Gundam things Favourite colour: purple, black Fun facts: He is near-sighted, sometimes he wears glasses. When he was younger, he played soccer. He likes he's adam's apple on his body, he thinks it is very masculine. He doesn't like his hands, because they are rather small, and it is difficult to play on the guitar with small hands. He likes sleeping in bed instead of doing it on a futon. He needs completedarkness to sleep. He follows every new fashion. His favourite parfums is Egoist Platinum and CK One; his favourite piece of clothing is jeans; his favourite season is autumn. When Kaoru was young, he got bored with his original black hair and he began to slowly brightening it to brown. When his parents noticed the change and asked him about it, he told them that the chemicals in the swimming pool were causing it, which is funny, because Kaoru can't swim. He has Japanese Zombie Heroez tattooed on his right arm; and recently, he got tattoos all over his left arm. Kaoru is the oldest of the group - and as one, he appears to be the most mature - and he is the stoic leader-sama; all of t he other members look up to Kaoru in a way. He is the main composer for most of their songs, and an excellent one at that; because every diru song is different, so he must have an amazing imagination to come up with so many different musical variations. His guitar skills are positively astounding too, he holds his audience captive through his playing. He rarely smiles - though when he does, it's a definitely heart-warming sight. However, he was the one member of the group who scared all the others when they first met. You can i magine, even the Waru was scared of him! Also he is quite s erious and very deliberate. But as adult-like as Kaoru appears - he has a sweet, childish side that he shows sometime: he is a big fan of anime and manga (especially Gundam), and loves to tease Shinya with Die, or simply to joke around. On concerts, Kaoru remains relatively still, but sometimes he just runs around the stage and pumps the crowd up. He is also famous for headbanging along to the music. He is a very big fan of Hide, he even joined to one of his fanclubs, sent him a letter and got an autograph! Altough he dislikes to admit it, he is very good at drawing. He likes sports like soccer very much, not like sport-hater Shinya. Kaoru doesn't wear much make-up - compared to the rest of the group, that is - he only accents his eyes and lips. He has no need to bring out his cheekbones, because they are pretty enough as they are! His hair is ever changing: it tends to go through various shades of purple and pink, even honey brown, and is currently black and blonde. He wears a lot of black that rarely shows much of his skin. His clothes look comlex (and sometimes bizarre, like the parasite hat O_O), and he states if any of his fans can cosplay his clothes he will be very amazed! _________________________________________________________ Nicknames: Die, Dai, Dai-suki In the band, he is a guitarist Date of birth: 12.20,1974. (Mie) Astrological sign: Sagittarius Zodiac sign: Tiger Blood type: B Height: 178cm / 5'10" Weight: 61 kg Clothes' size: L Shoe size: 41 (8) Favourite cigarette brand: Salm Light Favourite sport: soccer, baseball Favourite music: Sakai Noriko, Hide His former bands: ka・za・ri ® La:Sadie's Personality: sincere and honest ... and impudent, because he likes to tease people He sees himself as a hard-working, sincere, honest person Likes: cheese, sake, tease Shinya Dislikes: raw things, rain According to him, the most important thing is life Favourite food: tofu, potatoes, bacon, cheese omlett, milk, cheese, spaghetti, roasted meat, okonomiyaki, pastries etc... Food that he detests: seafood, thorny animals, raw foods He likes to get: cigarettes He likes not to get: raw things, candy Fun facts: He has 4 sisters. His breast is especially ticklish. He is near-sighted, he wears contactlenses. He is the most serene and easy-going member. Die was disgusted of some Chinese food served on their tour once, he was not impressed with the chicken-head soup. He was not able to look at it! Kyo and Toshiya on the other hand, thought it cool and Toshiya was playing with a head! There was a fire in Die's apartment once. He tried to smother it with a fire extinguisher, but he just succeeded spraying the foam all around his feet and then he ran outside. He said: "That was so uncool!". Altough Die is the second guitarist in the group, he is no less talented than our leader-sama, Kaoru. By the way, he is pretty amazing guitarist, the way he and Kaoru play together makes really gorgeous music. For some of their songs - especially in older ones like "Ash" and "Zan" - Die even sings backup vocals; he has a lovely, definite but soft voice. During concerts, Die is just like any other guitarist: he struts accross the stage to pump the crowd up, or just stands beside Kyo while he is singing. His idol is Takigawa Ichiro, the guitarist of Craze. He is the most talkative member of the band, also extremely playful, and quite a joker, too: he likes to tease the others especially Shinya, together with Kaoru. On the video taken in Osaka-Jou Hall, Toshiya pushed Shinya to the ground, and pounced on top of him, while Die covered them with feathers. So, he can make the others laugh almost any time. Die's real name is Daisuke, and the nickname for it is Dai. Some say that he changed the spelling of it to that of the English word "die", aiming to a more serious aspect. So Die is to be pronounced as "dai", not "di-eh". He is very proud of his mane which he had grown since high-school. It is almost dyed in red, often use to defy the laws of gravity - sticking upwards in all directions - making for a punkish hairstyle. But nowadays he wears his hair short and dark chestnut-coloured, also he uses less hair-styler. Die confesses: if someone state that he looks awful, he takes it as a compliment ^_^. After some of his fans complained that he was too fat - Die supposedly had eating and weight problems, because he took their ramblings to his heart, and became heavily underweighted. When Dir en grey was still dressing up in Visual Kei style, Die was quite extreme when it came to his looks and fashion; though his makeup was not always as daub-like as Kyo's. He was almost always leather-clad with lots of silver accessories - he always looked like a tough J-Rocker. Even though his music and scary outfits give off a hardcore attitude, Die is an extremely sweet and caring person. He has a kid hidden in himself, the way he seems to always be up to something. _____________________________________________________________________ Full name: 京 (Kyo) 西村享 (Nishimura Tooru) Nicknames: Kyo, Waru, Warumono In the band, he is a vocalist Date of birth: 02.16,1976. (Kyoto) Astrological sign: Aquarius Zodiac sign: Dragon Blood type: B Height: 160cm Weight: 43 kg Clothes' size: S/M Shoe size: 38 (5) Favourite sport: terrorising the others! Favourite music: X-Japan, Shiina Ringo, Buck-Tick His former bands: 月蝕 (Gesshoku) ® Visun 殆磨 ® Masquerade ® 廃人黒薔薇族 (Haijin Kurobarazoku) ® La:Sadie's Personality: hot-tempered, moody, funny He sees himself as a warumono Likes: videogames, sleeping, anime Dislikes: people According to him, the most important thing is fans Favourite food: scorpion, sausage, muffin, pens <(^×^)> Food he detests: liver, carrots He likes to get: games (LDSoft, GameSoft), old, traditional clothes He likes not to get: candy He colletcts: Doraemon, Warumono figurines Fun facts: Kyo can play guitar and bass to some extent. He tried many different instruments before he decided he would be a singer instead. Kyo hasn't got much luck with his eyebrow piercings. When he first had one, it got infected and was very tender, so he decided to leave it alone and have another piercing on the other side, but the same thing happened to that one too! Don't call this guy cute, EVER. Even though he is *so* adorable, he considers himself to be evil looking and scary. Many of his fans state that the scarier image he tries to put on, the more kawaii (cute) he seems to be (I love his evil little grin!). The nickname of Kyo is Warumono, meaning "bad person" in Japanese, but at the same time it is his favourite manga. When he was a little kid, he decided he will not learn any kanji, so in lieu of his original name he chose to use the "Kyo" kanji from his birthplace's name, Kyoto, which he speaks of quite fondly. Another explanation to his name is that he hated his original name and simply chose to use Kyo instead; the fact that he never used it - not even in his former bands - seems to comfirm this version. Kyo began his music career as a roadie for the band Kuroyume. He joined his first band, Gesshoku, at the age of 17 and he changed his name to Yoma - this band was together in Kyoto for only half a year. In his next band, Visun he went by the name, Hotoma. From there he joined the MASQUERADE. This was followed by Haijin Kurobarazoku where Kyo was joined by Shinya (drums) and KISAKI (bass). By this time, Kyo had changed to his current name. After that, La:Sadies was formed where Kyo, Shinya and Kisaki were joined by Die and Kaoru (guitars) later. He knows how to fall asleep absolutely anywhere: he was even sleeping in a middle of an interview! He is also known to enjoy lying during interviews, meaning one can never be sure that what he said has even a little verity in it. He has 2 pets, Puchi and Buchi, the kangaroo rats. It is said that he didn't get into the music business until he was 15, when he found out that it is something he really liked. He is a great fan of the band Kuroyume, and he looks up to the vocalist Kiyoharu. He has many piercings and tatoos He has such an eccentric and powerful voice that he can do amazing number of things with: singing, screaming, choking, laughing; he really know how to sound like he's vomiting or like he's having an orgasm in almost the same breath. It's almost as if he's doing some sound effects to his songs. For example, if you listen to Taiyou no Ao and then Zan, you think two completely different things about him. Also he has a maniac giggle - that can be found in some of his songs -, that you can't help but smile at... yeah, too cute! He's not only amazing as a vocalist, but as a songwriter as well. He wants to describe pain, so his lyrics never have a happy ending; all his songs are either really twisted or mournful and sad. During lives, Kyo takes the advantages of being the vocalist to its fullest: he practically throws himself around the stage, he is not only a singer, but a performer. He may be small, but he is a twisted bundle of energy. He is incredible to watch, for you can almost feel the pain in his vocals by just looking at him. His hearing to his left ear is very bad, because in 2000 he had an "Acute Acoustic Trauma" (I don't really know what it is, but sounds bad to me), and because of that, many lives were postponed to next year. In the band only Kyo likes to use daub-like, thick make-up. His hair changes color constantly: raging from black to red, to bleached blonde; he just spikes it up or combs it down, or just puts it under a hat or a bandana. Nowadays he keeps it at shoulder-lenght and dyes it black. In their Visual Kei days, the clothes he designed were often based on a traditional japanese kimono, interwined with modern materials like pleather and corsets. ___________________________________________________________________________ Full name: 原 敏政 (Hara Toshimasa) Nicknames: Toshiya, Tochi (Totchi) In the band, he is a bassist Date of birth: 03.31,1977. (Nagano) Astrological sign: Aries Zodiac sign: Snake Blood type: B Height: 179cm Weight: 58 kg Clothes' size: S/M Shoe size: 41 (7) Favourite cigarette brand: VIRGINIA SUMS LIGHT 6mg Favourite sport: Baseball His former bands: Pierrotのローディ ® D+L ® GOSICK Personality: spoiled, impatient, selfish, egoist Likes: fishing, resting at home Dislikes: bad things ^_^' According to him, the most important thing is parents, Dir en grey, the fans Favourite food: lots of things, vegetable juices Food he detests: parsley, broccoli He likes to get: clothes, shoes, accessories, figurines (he is a very devoted collector), cigarettes He likes not to get: perishable things and sweets Favourite colour: mostly blue, red Favourite designers: Vivienne Westwood, Masaki Matsushima, Milkboy Fun facts: He learned fashion design. His nose is the ticklest part of him. He wears contactlenses. On his free days he forgets his laziness. Toshiya has a red bedroom. He wanted it so, because red generates energy and excitement and he needs these when he finally gets home after a hard day's work. Embryo was the very first song when he played on his bass using his fingers instead of a pick. Even now he alternates between the pick and his fingers. Toshiya's apartment got soaked once: on the first floor he noticed the wet carpet, but no matter how he tried to dry it up, it got wet again. He called his landlord but it was late: all the wooden furniture in his house got wet and moldy! Toshiya is the only member who was not a part of La:Sadies before Dir en grey; he came from Deathmask. When he first met with Dir en grey, he couldn't decide what to think of them. He had heard some rumours about them, particularly about the blonde singer, Kyo. But he was impressed when he heard Kaoru scold a man who had claimed that they wouldn't make it as a real band. Kaoru told him in a proud tone that they surely would be famous. And it turned out that Kaoru was right after all. Toshiya often states jokingly that he was "kidnapped" by Dir en grey, but he seems pretty happy to be their "victim". Before he picked up the bass as his instrument, he had tried many before, like drums and guitar. However, he chose the bass because it had less strings and he thought it would be easier to play on it, but soon he had to find out that wasn't true. He spent lot of time practicing and thus he became one of the most talented bassist as a result. You just have to check out his bass solo in Cage, it's absolutely wonderful: his play is continous and the melody flows perfectly. Or you just have to listen to "Itoshisa wa fuhai ni tsuki" (which is on their new album); this song seems to have been made to show off Toshiya's bass. Toshiya - as Kaoru - is very good at drawing, he often makes comics of his band mates, also he is a big fan of anime and manga. Actually, a lot of his influences in his costumes came from reading them. He loves watching horror movies. He didn't have many boys in his neighbourhood to hang out with, so he just played with the girls instead. This had its drawback with his class mates later, for they became very jealous of him. On the video taken in the Osaka-Jou Hall, Toshiya pushed Shinya to the ground, and pounced on top of him, while Die covered them with feathers. Toshiya loves his fans, he often acts flirtatious on stage with the others (us, fangirls love this!). He is also famous for his water gun: he likes to spray the audience with it! He is open with his emotions, not afraid to show his beaming smile, or drop a tear (too sweet...); probably it has to do something with his dominant boyish personality. Totchi is beautifully slim and maybe he is the most beautiful in a feminine way, and he wore quite revealing outfits showing off his perfect figure; he wore lots of pvc and fishnet, lace and leather. His outfits were very intricate, and he looked (still looks), great in all of them. However, nowadays he seems to have handed this accentuated feminine style over to Shinya. Despite his attire, he is the vibrant and childish one, full of energy and boyish charm; he always seems to be ready to have some fun. On videos, he is *constantly* laughing and messing around. His face is naturally beautiful, so it hardly needs any makeup, but if he wears it, he makes himself more stinking in doing so. Like Kyo, he sometimes go to extremes, accentuating his lovely lips and pretty eyes. He keeps his hair cut fairly short, dyed with varieties of darker colours, like blue and black, but he dyes it a deep dark brown shade lately. ______________________________________________________________________ Full name: 寺地 心夜 (Terachi Shinya) Nicknames: Shinya, Shin-chan In the band, he is a drummer Date of birth: 02.24,1978. (Osaka) Astrological sign: Pisces Zodiac sign: Horse Blood type: B Height: 170cm Weight: 42 kg Clothes' size: M Shoe size: 38 Favourite cigarette brand: he doesn't smoke! Favourite sport: he hates sports Favourite music:Ayumi Hamasaki, Morning Musume, the music of Yoshiki His former bands: 人工天使 (Jinkou Tenshi) ® Siva ® Ruby ® 廃人黒薔薇族 (Haijin Kurobarazoku) ® La:Sadie's Personality: He claims himelf "cool", then kami no ke o sawaru (he touches his hair) He sees himself as a girl Likes: music Dislikes: stinky cigarettes According to him, the most important thing the fans everywhere Favourite food: jelly, raw salad and cabbage, beef, spaghetti Food that he detests: arisugiru (perishables), almost all foods He likes to get: clothes, CDs He likes not to get: plush toys Fun facts: His whole body is ticklish. He is near sighted, he wears contactlenses. He likes to drink all kinds of alcohol. When he travels, he carries with himself the "Shinya sama travelling set". He admires Yoshiki. He learns Kung-fu since 2nd grade. In his school he liked the music class, and hated English. He likes spring and autumn, because neither are hot nor cold. Even though Shinya not really talks about his love life, he said once that he wouldn't consider himself to be truly "grown up" until he will be a dad. The first and the last time he actually smoked was when he and his friends blew the smoke into bubbles. He thought it looked cool and he wanted to try. When Shinya started to perform on lives, he had no idea how to do the stage make up, so his mother helped him with that! Shinya is the "baby" of Dir en grey, him being the youngest and most serious member. Allegedly he is the most stubborn in the band, so the others allow him to do almost everything he wants. I find it amazing to hear him playing on the drums, such a powerful sound coming from a seemingly small person. He is the only one in the band who doesn't smoke, and likes to keep a healthy diet; he also likes to solve riddles. It is quite hard to get to know anything about him, as he doesn't give straight answers in interviews. He is constantly quiet, and never volunteers any information about himself. In fact, it was 6 months before the others found out what his phone number was! Also it is a rare occasion to see him flashing his pretty smile. His ideal is Yoshiki, the drummer of X Japan, who became the manager of Dir en grey. He also rarely speaks about his childhood nor love-life: his every answer was "normal is good" to interview questions in the latter topic. He loves his fans, on lives he often throws his drumsticks or waterbottles into the crowd. Shinya loves pop-music, especially girl pop. This is rather ironic, since he is in a J-Rock group ^_^. Shinya is an animal-lover; he has 2 dogs: Miyu the chihuahua and Puppy the papillon (the latter lives with his parents); he spoils them badly. Miyu is always with him, sometimes even on photoshoots, for they have some pictures together. As he confessed in the "21 questions for the 21st century" interview, the 3 most important things in his life are Miyu, then Puppy (the 3rd one is Dir en grey ^_^'). He is definitely the most feminine in the band - altough Toshiya is almost as female-looking as him sometimes. Allegedly, Die had a crush on him because he actually thought Shinya was a girl O_O. Poor Die. He gets picked on the most, probably because he is the youngest. Shinya is very tall and thin (only 42 kg!); usually he wears only a light dusting of makeup, a very feminine style, emphasizing his big pouty lips and beautiful eyes. He alwas has a beautiful hairstyle, and he constantly tries out something new. Like: after they finished recording the Yokan video, he had his long and curly hair cut; Die and Kaoru joined to the "ceremony". His haircolor usually is a shade of blonde or honey brown; and is currently bleached blonde. He makes a habit of dressing in a female fashion: like skirts and dresses with thigh -high boots. | |
Anis Fatimah
to have you in my life?
I'll start by saying what a gift you gave me
the day you became my wife.
You're my best friend in the good times
and my rock in times of sorrow.
You're the reason for sweet yesterdays
and my promise for tomorrow.
I never thought I could feel this loved
until you became my wife.
You made this year and every year
the best one of my life.
Maher Zain
For The Rest Of My Life
DAN KEPADA PASANGAN YANG TELAH MENDIRIKAN MASJID ATAU PUN BLOM LAGI.LAGU INI DI TUJUKAN KHAS BUAT KORUNX AND FOR ME & MY LUVLY WIFE.
Maher Zain
Lirik Baraka Allahu Lakuma
Our hearts are full of pleasure
A day that brings the two of you
Close together
We’re gathered here to celebrate
A moment you’ll always treasure
We ask Allah to make your love
Last forever
Let’s raise our hands and make Do’a
Like the Prophet taught us
And with one voice
Let’s all say, say, say
وجمع بينكما في خير
بارك الله لكما وبارك عليكما
وجمع بينكما في خير
Through heart-ship to support each other
Together worshipping Allah
Seeking His pleasure
We pray that He will fill your life
With happiness and blessings
And grants your kids who make your home
Filled with laughter
Let’s raise our hands and make Do’a
Like the Prophet taught us
And with one voice
Let’s all say, say, say
وجمع بينكما في خير
بارك الله لكما ولنا
الله أدم حبهما
الله صلّي وسلّم على رسول الله
الله ارض عنا
الله اهد خطانا
على سنة نبينا
Like the Prophet taught us
And with one voice
Let’s all say, say, say
وجمع بينكما في خير
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kepada pembaca-pembaca blog. di bawah ini adalah petua rumah tangga bahagia
Petua untuk bahagia rumah tangga
Tanpa sebuah persefahaman, tidak mungkin istana yang dibina menemui kebahagiaan sebagaimana diharapkan.
Biar berjuta halangan merentangi namun jika tersurat kasih dan sayang dua insan berkenaan, pasti ia menemukan ketulusan yang abadi.
Dalam melayari rumah tangga berdua, pasti banyak onak terpaksa dilalui. Hanya mereka yang kuat, tabah dan mampu mendepani segalanya bakal menjulang kebahagiaan.
Perunding motivasi dan keluarga, Datuk Dr Fadzilah Kamsah memberi 63 petua yang boleh dijadikan amalan pasangan suami isteri yang melayari rumah tangga.
1. Doa yang berterusan.
2. Patuh ajaran agama.
3.. Murah dengan pujian.
4. Murah dengan khidmat.
5. Murah dengan belaian kasih sayang.
6.. Murah dengan sentuhan.
7. Mencari kebaikan pasangan.
8. Cari masa berkomunikasi, berbual atau bergurau senda.
9. Cari kebaikan dan pembaikan diri daripada setiap pertengkaran.
10. Menghormati had, sempadan atau hal peribadi pasangan.
11. Menilai diri daripada perspektif pasangan.
12. Berfikiran terbuka - boleh tegur menegur.
13. Berani mengambil risiko emosi - tegur/perubahan/ berpisah sementara.
14. Menilai dan memberi keutamaan dalam kehidupan.
15. Tolak-ansur.
16. Menghormati dan mengambil kira ¡gerak batin¢ (intuition) perempuan.
17. Tidak mengejar kebendaan semata-mata.
18. Sedar bahawa perselisihan kadangkala tidak boleh dielakkan..
19. Mengubah diri untuk merangsang perubahan pada pasangan.
20. Sanggup berkorban buat pasangan.
21. Menghormati pasangan.
22. Berasa amat beruntung (dan nyatakan) mendapat pasangan yang ada.
23. Perhubungan seksual yang sihat dan diredai.
24. Menghormati perbezaan dalam diri pasangan.
25. Sentiasa bermaafan sebelum tidur.
26. Sentiasa bersangka baik terhadap masa depan.
27. Meletakkan hak kepada pasangan.
28. Tidak menjadi hamba kepada pasangan.
29. Berubah secara kecil-kecilan untuk meningkatkan kebahagiaan.
30. Mengawal marah. Buat perjanjian.
31. Mencari penyelesaian dalam situasi ¡menang-menang¢ .
32. Muhasabah hubungan untuk mencari punca masalah.
33. Menghormati sifat semula jadi pasangan.
34. Memahami peranan ¡pasangan¢.
35. Hubungan perasaan sesama pasangan.
36. Jangan simpan ketidakpuasan, sedih, marah atau benci dalam hati.
37. Bentuk kod kasih sayang dan anda berdua saja yang tahu.
38. Sengaja merancang untuk membaiki hubungan suami isteri.
39. Tujuh kali puji dan satu teguran.
40. Sebut ¡I love you¢ sepanjang masa.
41. Banyakkan bergurau dan bermesra.
42. Sentiasa berterus terang.
43. Beri masa untuk perubahan berlaku - sabar.
44. Elakkan berdebat untuk mencari kebenaran.
45. Elakkan salah pasangan.
46. Cari titik pertemuan.
47. Selesaikan masalah hari ini pada hari ini juga.
48. Lebih banyak memberi daripada menerima.
49. Minta nasihat, pandangan atau maklum balas daripada pasangan.
50. Sentiasa bersemangat - bangun tidur, pergi kerja, balik kerja dan sebagainya.
51. Seimbangkan hubungan dari segi:
(a) Mental, pendidikan dan ilmu
(b) Emosi
(c) Fizikal dan ekonomi
(d) Sosial
(e) Spiritual
52. Jangan berjauhan terlalu lama (kecuali terpaksa).
53. Tidak terlalu mengongkong.
54. Tidak bertindak bersendirian.
55. Memberi peluang untuk berbeza:
(a) Pendapat atau pandangan
(b) Hobi
(c) Kegemaran
(d) Makanan
(e) Cita rasa
(f) Warna pilihan dan pelbagai
56. Humor atau lawak dari semasa ke semasa.
57. Minta bantuan untuk memecahkan kitaran negatif.
58. Berwawasan dan pandang ke depan (tidak terjebak dengan masalah semasa).
59. Tidak meminta yang bukan-bukan.
60. Bentuk undang-undang atau peraturan dalam rumah tangga.
61. Mencari kelainan dan perubahan positif.
62. Elakkan mendera pasangan dengan apa cara sekalipun.
63. Reda, syukur dan tawakal kepada Allah s.w.t.
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dan kepada sesiapa inginkan rumahtangga di redhai Allah S.W.T dan mendapat kejayaan dunia dan akhirat inila saya lampirkan Doa-doa amalan harian yg boleh sedara dan sedari amalkan.
Doa-doa Untuk Kebahagiaan Rumahtangga (Suami, isteri, anak soleh solehah)
Maksudnya : Dan juga mereka (yang diredhai Allah itu ialah orang-orang) yang berdoa dengan berkata: Wahai Tuhan kami, berilah kami beroleh dari isteri-isteri dan zuriat keturunan kami: Perkara-perkara yang menyukakan hati melihatnya dan jadikanlah kami imam ikutan bagi orang-orang yang (mahu) bertakwa. (al-Furqan 25, ayat 74)
Untuk amalan رَبـَّــنـَــا.…………………… Maksudnya Wahai Tuhan kami, berilah kami beroleh dari isteri-isteri dan zuriat keturunan kami: Perkara-perkara yang menyukakan hati melihatnya dan jadikanlah kami imam ikutan bagi orang-orang yang (mahu) bertakwa. 2.
Maksudnya : Maka tersenyumlah Nabi Sulaiman mendengar kata-kata semut itu dan berdoa dengan berkata: Wahai Tuhanku, ilhamkanlah daku supaya tetap bersyukur akan nikmatMu yang Engkau kurniakan kepadaku dan kepada ibu bapaku dan supaya aku tetap mengerjakan amal soleh yang Engkau redai dan masukkanlah daku dengan limpah rahmatMu dalam kumpulan hamba-hambaMu yang soleh. (an-Naml 27, ayat 19) Untuk amalan رَبِّ أ َوْز ِعـْــنـِــى…………..الصــَّــالـِــحـِــيـْــنَ Maksudnya Wahai Tuhanku, ilhamkanlah daku supaya tetap bersyukur akan nikmatMu yang Engkau kurniakan kepadaku dan kepada ibu bapaku dan supaya aku tetap mengerjakan amal soleh yang Engkau redai dan masukkanlah daku dengan limpah rahmatMu dalam kumpulan hamba-hambaMu yang soleh. 3.
Maksudnya : Dan Kami wajibkan manusia berbuat baik kepada kedua ibu bapanya; ibunya telah mengandungnya dengan menanggung susah payah dan telah melahirkannya dengan menanggung susah payah. Sedang tempoh mengandungnya berserta dengan tempoh menceraikan susunya ialah dalam masa tiga puluh bulan. Setelah dia besar sampai ke peringkat dewasa yang sempurna kekuatannya dan sampai ke peringkat umur empat puluh tahun, berdoalah dia dengan berkata: Wahai Tuhanku, ilhamkanlah daku supaya tetap bersyukur akan nikmatmu yang engkau kurniakan kepadaku dan kepada ibu bapaku dan supaya aku tetap mengerjakan amal soleh yang Engkau redai; dan jadikanlah sifat-sifat kebaikan meresap masuk ke dalam jiwa zuriat keturunanku. Sesungguhnya aku bertaubat kepadamu dan sesungguhnya aku dari orang-orang Islam (yang tunduk patuh kepadamu). (al-Ahqaf 46, ayat 15) Untuk amalan رَبِّ أ َوْز ِعـْــنـِــى……………….. Maksudnya Wahai Tuhanku, ilhamkanlah daku supaya tetap bersyukur akan nikmatmu yang engkau kurniakan kepadaku dan kepada ibu bapaku dan supaya aku tetap mengerjakan amal soleh yang Engkau redai; dan jadikanlah sifat-sifat kebaikan meresap masuk ke dalam jiwa zuriat keturunanku. Sesungguhnya aku bertaubat kepadamu dan sesungguhnya aku dari orang-orang Islam (yang tunduk patuh kepadamu).